Isbahaysiga Ka-hortagga Xoogsheegashada^{(Anti-Bullying Alliance)} ayaa sii daayay qalab is-dhexgal ah oo loogu talagalay waalidiinta kaas oo ku siinaya macluumaadka ku saabsan cagajuglaynta, nooca & noocyada cagajuglaynta, xoogsheegashada kooxda, waxaad adiga, booliiska ama dugsigu samayn karto iyo wax ka badan.

Ka adkaanta ama u cagajuglaynta^{( Bullying)} qof sabab la'aan waa dhacdo caadi ah, iyo dhacdo murugo leh oo caadi ah. Dugsigu^(School) waa mid ka mid ah meelaha ay marar badan ka dhacaan, wuxuuna ka dhigaa calaamado xun marka loo eego xagga nafsiga iyo xagga jirkaba. Muhiim ma aha oo kaliya in la ogaado haddii tani ay ku dhacayso carruurtaada, laakiin sidoo kale waa muhiim inaad wax barato, naftaada waalid ahaan, oo aad ogaato waxaad samayn karto si aad tan u joojiso.

Waa dhaqanka guud ee bini'aadmigu in uu qof la wareego iyada oo la adeegsanayo erayo ama jidh ahaan. Carruurta u xoogsheegta agagaarka aad bay u wareersan yihiin sida kuwa la xoogsheegtay. ^{( Kids who bully around are as much confused as those who are getting bullied.)} Waxay kaliya u sameeyaan sababtoo ah way awoodaan, marar badanna deegaanka guriga ayaa ka dhiga inay u sameeyaan iyagoon ogayn. Waxa kale oo muhiim u ah carruurtaas in hab-dhaqankooda la xalliyo.

Maqaalkan, waxaan ka hadlayaa waxa ay ka dhigan tahay, maxaad ka qaban kartaa.

Waa maxay cagajuglaynta marka ay timaado carruurta

Xoog^(Bullying) u sheegashadu waa dhacdo soo noqnoqonaysa halkaas oo carruurta jidh ahaan u xoog badan ama erayadooda xariif ku ah ay dhib u geystaan ​​carruurta aan heerkooda gaarin. In kasta oo carruurta xoogsheegta aanay wax fikrad ah ka haysan sida ay u xun tahay, waa ula kac sababtoo ah waxay u maleynayaan inay tahay madadaalo. Caadiyan, waxaa sameeya koox, laakiin waxay noqon kartaa shakhsi sidoo kale.

Tusaalooyinka qaar ee cagajuglaynta^{(Some examples of Bullying)}

• Ku maad muuqalka.
• Iyagoo ku maadsanaya heerka garaadkooda ama buundooyinka dugsiga.
• Ka dhigista inay qabtaan shaqada-guriyeedka taasoo inta badan ku dhacda caruur ka caqli badan.
• Iyaga oo lagu caayo waalidkood ama saaxiibadood.
• Mararka qaarkood iyagana waa la qariyaa. Dadka xanta faafinaya, ka dhigaya in la iska indho tiro iyo wixii la mid ah.

Marka la soo koobo, waxay noqon kartaa hadal, jireed ama xitaa internetka. Ka hubi wax badan oo ku saabsan cyberbullying halkan.

Sida loo ogaado in ubadkaagu la cagajugleynaayo^(Bullied)

Ma jiro qof kaa aqoon fiican ubadkaaga. Isbeddel yar oo ka yimaada dhaqankooda caadiga ah waa in ay ku geliyaan. Inkasta oo laga yaabo inaysan ahayn cagajugleyn, laakiin haddii aad ka boodo ama aadan fahmin inay wax ka khaldan yihiin ubadkaaga, way ku sii xumaanaysaa qoyska oo dhan. Waa kuwan qaar ka mid ah calaamadaha ay tahay inaad la socoto carruurta:

• Luminta degdega ah ee xiisihii aad u lahayd dugsi ama kulliyad.
• Kaligaa ku qaadashada wakhti gees ka mid ah guriga ama isku xidhka qolka.
• Way xanaaqsan yihiin, way xanaaqsan yihiin, way ku ooyaan xataa waxyaalo yaryar.
• Ka cararka waxyaabaha caadiga ah.
• Calaamadaha jirkooda oo laga yaabo inay isku dayaan inay ku daboolaan shil yar gadaashiisa.

Sida looga hortago cagajuglaynta

Talaabada ugu horeysa waxay u baahan tahay inaad qaado adiga, waalid ahaan. Ma aha ilmo kastaa mid caqli badan ama xoog leh ama xitaa ku dhiiran inuu u adkeysto cadaadiska adduunka ka baxsan. Waxaad u baahan tahay inaad ka dhigto kuwo xooggan.

• U xaqiiji in aad mar walba la joogtid iyaga si kasta oo ay xaaladdu uga sii dartay. Marar badan caruurtu way ka baqaan inay sheegaan sababta oo ah mar hore waa la caayay, waxayna dareemi karaan falcelin la mid ah oo adiga kaa imanaysa.
• Maalin kasta la hadal, oo weydii waxyaalaha yaryar, taas oo ka caawisa inay sheegaan wax laga yaabo inay dib u dhigeen labalaabasho awgeed.
• U muuji^(Show) kalsooni iyaga waxa ay sameynayaan, xitaa haddii ay tahay wax yar. Haddii ilmahaagu bartay sida loo nadiifiyo qolkiisa, u mahadnaq. Waxyaabahan yaryar waxay kor u qaadi doonaan kalsoonidiisa, isaga ama iyada waxay u adkeysan doonaan cadaadiska dugsiga si ka wanaagsan.
• Isku-dubbarid farqiga u dhexeeya cagajuglaynta^(Bullying) , iyo waa maxay dhacdo hal mar ah. Mararka qaarkood dadku waxay sameeyaan ulajeed la'aan ama xitaa shil. Haddii ay soo noqnoqonayso mooyaane, maaha cagajugleyn.

Sida loo soo sheego cagajuglaynta

Hadda oo aad la hadlayso ubadkaaga, waa waqtigii aad bilaabi lahayd diiwaangelinta dhacdooyinka uu kula wadaagay. In kasta oo ay u ekaan karto wax badan, laakiin ay tahay shay muhiim ah, sababtoo ah marka aad u baxdo si aad u difaacdo ubadkaaga, waxaad haysataa xaqiiqooyin adag oo aan dugsigu lahayn ama qofka cagajuglaynta ahi aanu xasuusan.

Marka xigta, la xiriir maamulka Dugsiga^(School) ama kulliyadda. Iyadoo laga yaabo inaad soo wacdo, had iyo jeer waa fikrad wanaagsan inaad tagto, oo aad la kulanto iyaga shakhsi ahaan. Tani waxay ku tusinaysaa inaad dhab ka tahay arrinkaas, maamulka dugsiguna wuu fiiro gaar ah siinayaa. La wadaag qoraalada aad ururisay, waxayna ku xidhnaan doonaan inay baadhitaan dheeraad ah sameeyaan.

Haddii dugsigaagu kugu guuldareysto, waa waqtigii la eegi lahaa siyaasadahooda. Dugsi kastaa wuxuu leeyahay xeer anshax oo ka hadlaya sida ay u maareeyaan marka ay timaado cagajuglaynta. Weydiiso^(Ask) nuqul ka mid ah siyaasadda dugsiga, oo qoraal ka samee.

Ku dhaji tan u diyaari warqad gacan ku qoran madaxa^(Head) dugsiga oo aad kaga hadlayso shilalka, koobiga liiska shilalka, soo qaado siyaasadaha dugsiga oo shakhsi ahaan u sii. Tani waa inay ku filnaataa inay soo jiidato dareenkooda.

Fiiri Qalabka Ka-hortagga Xoogsheegashada

Si aad u hubiso qalabka xiisaha leh ee Isbahaysiga^(Alliance) Ka-hortagga Xoogsheegashada booqo anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk halkan. Kahor intaadan bilaabin, waa inaad isticmaashaa Tool Checker Browser^{(Browser Checker Tool)}  ka hor inta aanad bilaabin cutubkan tababarka si aad u hubiso inaad haysato shuruudaha nidaamka saxda ah.

Ugu dambayn, haddii aad ubad u xoogsheegto...

Tani waxay la mid tahay cagajuglaynta oo kale, haddii ay taasi dhacdo, waa inaad arrinta si dhab ah u qaadataa. Noqoshada cagajuglaynta^(Bully) waxay ilmahaaga u qaadi kartaa waddo qaldan oo noloshooda ah, xitaa haddii aysan u xumaan dembiilayaal, waxay saamaynaysaa sida ay ula dhaqmaan dadka kale. Waa kan waxa ay tahay inaad sameyso:

• La hadal ilmahaaga, oo isku day inaad ogaato waxa laga yaabo inuu sidaas u dhaqmayo. Marar badan waa uun niyad jabka shay uu soo saarayo qof kale.
• Qaado daqiiqad si aad uga fikirto sida ay wax yihiin gurigaaga. Ma jiraan wax uu ilmahaagu kaa baranayo, oo halkaa ku soo koob.
• Kala hadal Macallimiintaada ^(Teachers)Caruurta^(Kids) wixii tafaasiil dheeraad ah Sidoo kale hel macalimiin kalsooni leh si aysan u sheegin kulanka ilmahaaga.
• Mararka qaarkood, waxaa laga yaabaa inaad qaadato gargaar caafimaad si aad wax u xalliso haddii arrimuhu aad u xun yihiin.

Waa muhiim, iyo mas'uuliyadda ka waalid ahaan carruurtaada. Tan ha ka cararin.

Interactive Anti-Bullying Tool for Parents and what you can do about it

The Anti-Bullying Alliance has released an interactive tool for parents that give you information about bullying, the type & forms of bullying, group bullying, what you, the police or the school can do and more.

Overpowering or Bullying someone for no reason is a common, and sad event that is common. School is one of the places where it happens often, and it leaves terrible marks both from psychological and physical perspective. It’s not only important to know if this is happening to your kids, but its also important to educate them, yourself as a parent, and know what you can do to stop this.

It’s a general human behavior to take over someone either by using words or physically. Kids who bully around are as much confused as those who are getting bullied. They just do it because they can, and many a time the environment at home make them do it unknowingly. It’s also important for those kids to get their behavior sorted.

In this post, I am talking about what it means, what you can do about it.

What is Bullying when it comes kids

Bullying is a repeating event where kids who are either physically strong or smart with their words keep hurting kids who are not at their level. Even though kids who bully don’t have any idea how badly it hurts, it’s intentional because they think its fun. Usually, its done by a group, but can be an individual as well.

Some examples of Bullying

• Making fun of appearances.
• Making fun of their intelligence level or school marks.
• Making them do their homework which usually happens with smarter kids.
• Taunting them about their parents or friends.
• Sometimes they are hidden as well. People spreading rumors, making them get ignored and so on.

In short, it can be verbal, physical or even online. Do check out more about Cyberbullying here.

How to know if your kid is getting Bullied

Nobody knows your kid better than you. A small shift from their usual behavior should alarm you. Even though it may not be bullying, but if you skip or don’t understand there is something wrong with your kid, it gets worse for the whole family. Here are some signs you should keep a track of kids:

• The sudden loss of interest to go to school or college.
• Spending time alone at some corner of the house or locking themselves in the room.
• They are angry, upset, crying even on small things.
• Running away from normal things.
• Physical marks on their body which they might try to cover up behind a small accident.

How to prevent bullying

The first step needs to be taken by you, as a parent. Not every kid is smart or strong or even bold enough to withstand the pressure of the outside world. You need to make them stronger.

• Assure them that you are always with them no matter how worse the situation is for them. Many a time kids are scared to tell because they are already insulted, and could feel the same reaction coming from you.
• Talk to them every day, ask them about small things, that helps them to say the thing they might have been holding back because of hesitation.
• Show confidence in them for what they do, even if its a small thing. If your kid has learned how to keep his room clean, appreciate it. These small things will boost his confidence, and he or she will withstand pressure in school in a much better way.
• Team them the difference between Bullying, and what is a one-off incident. Sometimes people do without intention or even accidental. Unless it’s getting repeated, it’s not bullying.

How to report Bullying

Now that you are talking to your kid, its time to start making a record of the incidents he has shared with you. While it may look like a lot, but its an important thing to, because when you go out to defend your kid, you have some hard facts which neither school have nor the person bullying remembers.

Next, get in touch with School or college authority. While you may call, its always a good idea to go, and meet them in person. This shows you are serious about it, and school authority pays attention. Share the notes you have collected to them, and they will be bound to investigate further.

If your school fails on you, its time to look at their policies. Every school has a code of conduct which talks about how they handle it when it comes to bullying. Ask for a copy of school’s policy, and make a note of it.

Post this prepare a handwritten letter to School’s Head talking about the incidents, a copy of the list of incidents,  quote the policies of the school and give them in person. This should be enough to draw their attention.

Check out the Anti-Bullying Tool

To check out the interesting tool from Anti-Bullying Alliance visit anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk here. Before you begin, you will have to use their Browser Checker Tool before starting this training module to make sure you have the correct system requirements.

Lastly, if you child Bullys…

This is as bad as getting bullied, and if this is the case, you should take the matter seriously. Becoming a Bully can take your kid on a wrong path in their life, and even if they don’t become bad as criminals, it does affect how they treat everyone else. Here is what you should do:

• Talk to your kid, and try to figure out what he might be acting like that. Many a time its mere frustration of something that he taking out somebody else.
• Take a moment to think how things are at your home. Is there something which your kid is learning from you, and just replicate it there.
• Talk to your Kids Teachers for more details. Also get teachers in confidence not to tell about the meeting to your kid.
• Sometimes, you might have to take medical help to get things sorted if things are very bad.

It’s important, and a responsibility as a parent for your kids. Do not run away from this.

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