In kasta oo wejiga dadwaynaha ee baraha bulshadu^{(social media)} uu yahay mid diirran oo wareersan, haddana waa fasalka adeegga internetka oo leh dhinac madow oo daran. Ma aha oo kaliya in warbaahinta bulshadu ay burburin karto wax soo saarkaaga, waxay dhaawici kartaa sirtaada waxayna yeelan kartaa saameyn xun oo caafimaadka maskaxda ah, laakiin sidoo kale waxaad noqon kartaa bartilmaameedka khayaanada ama cagajuglaynta. Kalluumeysiga ayaa sameyn kara kuwaas oo dhan.

Kalluumaysigu^(Catfishing) waa dhacdo kakan oo ay adkaan karto in la ogaado. Waa nooc ka mid ah khiyaanada aqoonsiga^{(identity fraud)} halkaas oo qof (ama koox dad ah) ay abuuraan shakhsi online been abuur ah ka dibna ay beegsadaan shakhsiyaadka, isku dayaya in ay bilaabaan (caadi ahaan) xiriir online jacayl iyaga. 

Natiijooyinka khiyaanada kalluumeysiga waxay noqon kartaa wax xun, laakiin haddii aad taqaanid calaamadaha waxaad badbaadin kartaa naftaada xanuun badan.

Waa maxay "Catfishing"?

Waxay u muuqataa in asalka ereyga "catfishing" lagu tilmaamayo noocaan gaarka ah ee khiyaanada internetka asal ahaan ka yimid dukumeenti cinwaankeedu yahay Catfish . Filimkaas, waxaan ku aragnaa nin dhalinyaro ah oo xiriir online ah la yeeshay haweeney Facebook - ga ka soo baxday oo gebi ahaanba la sameeyay. 

Cinwaanka ayaa ka yimid sheeko laga dhex sheegay filimka oo sifaynaysa sida kalluunka lagu soo raro weelku u firfircoonaado iyadoo lagu lammaaninayo kalluunka kalluunka. Tusaalaha halkan waa in dadka ku kaca kalluumeysiga kalluunka ay nagu hayaan dhammaan lugahayaga.

Ereyga ayaa markaa caan ku ahaa bandhigga MTV ee cinwaankiisu yahay Catfish: Bandhigga TV-ga^{(Catfish: The TV Show)(Catfish: The TV Show)} . Tani waxay ahayd TV-ga dhabta ah sida Cheaters , halkaas oo dhibanayaasha kalluumeysiga ay la kulmaan dhibbanayaasha iyaga oo kaashanaya bandhigga. Taasi waa sababta aan maanta ugu yeerno catfishing.

Maxaa dhacaya Inta lagu jiro Kalluumeysiga?

In kasta oo aysan ahayn kiis had iyo jeer, inta badan waa kalluunka-kalluunka kan ku dhaqaaqa ugu horreeya dhibbanaha. Waxay badanaa heli doonaan fariin toos ah ama mid gaar ah oo leh nooc ka mid ah furaha. " Hey jiro, quruxsan." ama "Ma joojin karo fiirinta sawirka profile kaaga." waxay noqon kartaa tusaale 

Haddii dhibbanuhu uu la qabsado iyaga, kalluumaystaha ayaa bilaabi doona inuu toleeyo shabakadooda. Ma aha wax aan caadi ahayn in catfishers ay ciyaaraan ciyaarta dheer. Khiyaanada waxaa laga yaabaa in la sameeyo waqti dheer, taasoo abuuraysa kalsoonida dhibbanaha.

Kalluumaysatadu waxay khabiir ku noqon karaan wax-is-dabamarinta iyo ka faa'iidaysiga daciifnimada shakhsi ahaaneed ee qofka ay beegsanayaan. Sida qof cidla ah, lumay xaas, ama si kale u nugul.

Maxay u dhacdaa Kalluumeysiga?

Mid ka mid ah dhinacyada ugu dhibka badan ee kalluumeysiga ayaa ah in dadka sameeya ay yeelan karaan dhiirigelin badan oo kala duwan. Midda ugu toosan waa lacag. Waxa jira warshado kalluumaysi oo online ah oo kobcaya oo khiyaameeya kumanaan qof oo lacagtooda ah sannad kasta. Ka dib waxaa jira kalluumeysi sida ficil xoogsheegasho internet oo saafi ah oo murugo leh. Fikradda ayaa ah in dhibbanaha la bahdilo oo haddii kale maskax ahaan la jirdilo. 

Ugu dambayntii, kalluumaysigu waxa laga yaabaa in aanu si badheedh ah xaasidnimo u ahayn. Hase yeeshe^(Rather) , dadka qaarkiis waxay isticmaalaan qarsoodiga internetku awoodo si ay u abuuraan shakhsiyaad khayaali ah oo ka caawiya inay ku noolaadaan khiyaali ama sahamiyaan dabeecadahooda jacaylka ama galmada.

Tusaale ahaan, qofka xaaska ah waxaa laga yaabaa in uu qof la guursado khadka internetka isagoo ku dhuumanaya akoon been abuur ah oo ay u sameeyeen ujeedadaas. In kasta oo ay ka maqan tahay xaasidnimada noocan ah kalluunka-kalluumaysiga, maaha wax dhib yar oo dhibbanaha ah.

Sida Loo Arko Iskuday Kalluumeysi?

Aragtida isku day kalluumeysi waxay noqon kartaa mid aad u dhib badan. Marka hore^(First) , dhammaan calamadaha digniinta laguma dabaqo nooc kasta oo kalluunka kalluunka ah. Dhiirigelinta kaluumaystaha ayaa go'aaminaya nooca weerarka lagugu qaadayo. Si kastaba ha ahaatee, waxaa jira waxyaabo caadi ah oo la iska fiiriyo marka saaxiibkaaga internetka ee cusub uu bilaabo inuu sameeyo waxyaabo jaceyl ah.

Sawirro Profile been abuur ah^{(Fake Profile Pictures)}

Mid ka mid ah xeeladaha muhiimka ah ee ay isticmaalaan kalluunka-kalluumeysatada waa xadista profiles dadka kale. Sawirkooda profile wuxuu ka iman karaa meel kasta. In kasta oo aanay 100% nacasnimo ahayn, haddana habka ugu wanaagsan ee lagu ogaan karo sawirrada profile been-abuurka ah ama sawirrada kale ee la soo dhejiyay profile-kooda, waa in la isticmaalo raadinta sawirka beddelka ah^{(reverse image search)} . 

U fiirso waxa uu yahay Raadinta Sawirka & Sida Loo Isticmaalo^{(What Reverse Image Search Is & How To Use It)} si aad u hesho cashar degdeg ah oo ku saabsan sida loo raad raaco sawirada asalkooda.

Ka Fogaanshaha Dhameystiran ee Wicitaanada Fiidiyowga ama Kulamada Nolosha Dhabta ah^{(Complete Avoidance of Video Calls or Real-life Meetings)}

Tan iyo malaha catfisher-ku uma eka sawirkooda profile, waxaad filan lahayd inaysan rabin inay muujiyaan wajigooda dhabta ah. Taasi^(Which) waa sababta aad sidoo kale u heli doonto marmarsiiyo ku saabsan sababta wicitaanka fiidyaha ama kulanka nolosha dhabta ah uusan u dhici karin. Haddii qofku jinsi kale ka yahay xisaabta been abuurka ah ama uu leeyahay lahjad ka duwan sidii la filayay, waxa kale oo laga yaabaa inay yidhaahdaan maya wicitaan cod ah. 

Haddii catfisher uu riixayo xiriir halis ah laakiin ma sameyn doono wax fudud sida rajada Zoom si uu kula sheekeysto, taasi waa calan weyn oo cas.

Xirfadaha Luuqadda Liidata^{(Poor Language Skills)}

Ma aha calaamad caalami ah oo khiyaano ah, laakiin waa inaad ka shakisaa qof ay ku liidato higgaadda iyo naxwaha marka ay kula xiriiraan. Kalluumaysatada sare waxay dabcan u macnayn karaan tan iyagoo abuuraya muuqaal been abuur ah oo qof ku hadla luqadda labaad.

Si aan waaqici ahayn ayay u qumman yihiin^{(They are Unrealistically Perfect)}

Ma rabno inaan u jeedno in adiga, akhristaha qaaliga ah, aadan ahayn mid si dhab ah u qabsan kara oo aanad xajin karin qofka riyadaada. Si kastaba ha ahaatee, catfishers waxay leeyihiin u janjeera si ay u abuuraan profiles been abuur ah oo kaliya in yar aad u qumman. Waxa laga yaabaa inay qurux badan yihiin, caqli badan yihiin, aqoon u leeyihiin, xirfad kasta u leeyihiin hiwaayad kasta iyo hubinta sanduuq kasta oo kale oo aad maskaxda ku hayso lammaane. 

Isweydii^(Ask) sida ay macquul u tahay in qofkaas oo kale uu jiro iyo in uu si badheedh ah kuugu beegsanayo jacayl gaar ah.

Ma laha shabakad saaxiibo ah^{(They Have No Network of Friends)}

Muuqaalka beenta ah ee catfisher-ka waxaa si fiican loogu soo koobayaa faahfaahinta ku saabsan noloshooda khayaaliga ah, laakiin aad ayey u adag tahay in la been abuuro shabakad bulsho oo dhab ah. Ma leeyihiin saaxiibo kale? Dhammaan xiriirkooda si shaki leh miyay u eg yihiin xisaabaadyo been abuur ah laftooda? Ma cid kale ayay la falgalaan? Ku kalsoonow^(Trust) mindhicirkaaga oo ku qiimee xisaabta sida dhabta ah ee ay dareemayso.

Sheekooyin Sob ah iyo Codsiyada Lacag^{(Sob Stories and Requests for Money)}

Ka dib markaad dhisato qiyaas kalsooni ah oo adiga lagugu sameeyo oo aad hubiso inay jiraan xoogaa xiiso jacayl ah, waxay u badan tahay inaad hesho codsi lacag. Caadi ahaan waxaa jira "xaalad degdeg ah oo caafimaad" ama qofku wuxuu sheeganayaa in laga saarayo.

Wax kasta oo gaar ah, baahida lacagtu waa degdeg iyo jacaylkaaga cusub ee la helay ayaa loo isticmaalaa si aad u hesho iyada oo aan wax badan oo muhiim ah ku lug lahayn qaybtaada.

Kalluumaysatada kala duwani waxay leeyihiin qaabab kala duwan oo ay uga baxsadaan lacagta dhibanayaasha. Qaar baa laga yaabaa inay hal dhacdo u kordhiyaan lacag weligood ka sii weyn maadaama “xaalad degdeg ah” ay ka sii darayso oo ay ka sii darayso ka hor inta aanay lumin. Kuwo kale ayaa laga yaabaa inay qaataan xaddi yar oo lacag ah muddo dheer, iyaga oo ilaalinaya khiyaanada ilaa inta suurtogalka ah.

Xasuusnoow in dhammaan shilalka kalluumeysiga aysan lacag ku lug lahayn. Markaa sababtoo ah dhaqankani ma dhacayo macnaheedu maaha inaad xor tahay oo caddahay.

Halkee laga heli karaa caawimo^(Help) haddii aad tahay dhibane

Haddii aad ka shakisan tahay in lagaa kalluumaysanayo, waxa ugu muhiimsan ee la sameeyo waa xannibaadda akoontiga. Ha sii wadin inaad la xiriirto qofka oo u soo sheeg akoonkiisa goobta warbaahinta bulshada.

Xaaladaha qaarkood, waxaa laga yaabaa inaad sidoo kale rabto inaad la xiriirto booliiska. Maalmahan ciidamo badan oo booliis ah ayaa lahaa cutubyo ku takhasusay dambiyada sida kalluumeysiga. Waxay kaa caawin karaan raadinta qofka dhabta ah waxayna bixiyaan noocyo kale oo taageero ah. Gaar ahaan haddii lacag lagugu khiyaaneeyay.

Waa inaad sidoo kale ka taxadartaa inaad ka fiirsato wixii waxyeelo nafsi ah oo laga yaabo in lagugu sameeyay. Hubi si aad u aragto haddii ay jiraan ururo taageero cyberbullying ah oo aad kala xidhiidhi karto taageero iyo macluumaad dheeraad ah. Dabcan, waa inaad sidoo kale la xiriirtaa asxaabta iyo xubnaha qoyska aad aaminsan tahay si ay u taageeraan haddii aad u baahan tahay. Weligaa ha ka xishoon in kaluumayste ku khiyaaneeyo. Runtii way ku dhici kartaa qof kasta!

What Is Catfishing and How to Recognize It on Social Media

Whіle the public face of social media is all warm and fuzzy, it’s a class of internet service that has a serious dark side. Not only can social media destroy your productivity, damage your privacy and have negative mental health effects, but you can also become the target of scams or bullying. Catfishing can do all of these.

Catfishing is a complex phenomenon that can be hard to spot. It’s a form of identity fraud where a person (or group of people) create a fake online persona and then target individuals, trying to start a (usually) romantic online relationship with them. 

The results of a catfishing scam can be devastating, but if you know the signs you could save yourself a lot of heartache.

What Is “Catfishing”?

It seems that the origin of the word “catfishing” to describe this unique type of internet fraud originally comes from a documentary titled Catfish. In that film, we see a young man who develops an online relationship with a woman on Facebook who turns out to be completely made up. 

The title came from a story told within the film describing how cod shipped in vats are kept active by pairing them with catfish. The analogy here is that the people who perpetrate catfishing keep us all on our toes.

The term was then popularized by an MTV show titled Catfish: The TV Show. This was reality TV like Cheaters, where victims of catfishing confront their victimizers with the help of the show. That’s why we call it catfishing today.

What Happens During Catfishing?

While not always the case, it’s mostly the catfisher who makes the first move on the victim. They’ll usually receive a direct or private message with some sort of opener. “Hey there, handsome.” or “I can’t stop looking at your profile picture.” could be examples. 

Should the victim engage with them, the catfisher will start to weave their web. It’s not uncommon for catfishers to play the long game. The scam may be perpetrated over lengthy periods of time, building trust with the victim.

Catfishers can be experts at manipulating and exploiting the personal weaknesses of the person they are targeting. Such as someone who is lonely, lost a spouse, or is otherwise vulnerable.

Why Does Catfishing Happen?

One of the trickier aspects of catfishing is that the people who do it can have many different motivations. The most straightforward one is money. There’s a thriving online catfishing industry that scams thousands of people out of their money each year. Then there’s catfishing as an act of pure and sadistic cyberbullying. The idea is to humiliate the victim and otherwise mentally torture them. 

Finally, the catfishing may not be intentionally malicious. Rather, some people use the anonymity the internet affords to create fictional personas that help them live out fantasies or explore their own romantic or sexual natures.

For example, a married person may have a virtual fling with someone online while hiding behind a fake account they’ve created for that purpose. Despite the lack of malice in this type of catfishing, it’s no less devastating to the victim.

How to Spot a Catfishing Attempt?

Spotting a catfishing attempt can be incredibly tricky. First of all, not all warning signs apply to every type of catfisher. The motivations of the catfisher decides the type of attack on you. Nonetheless, there are some common things to look out for when your new online friend starts to make romantic overtures.

Fake Profile Pictures

One of the key tactics used by catfishers is stealing profiles from other people. Their profile picture could originate from anywhere. While it’s not 100% foolproof, a good way to detect fake profile pictures or other photos posted to their profile, is to use reverse image search. 

Have a look at What Reverse Image Search Is & How To Use It for a quick lesson on how to trace images back to their origin.

Complete Avoidance of Video Calls or Real-life Meetings

Since the catfisher probably doesn’t look like their profile picture, you’d expect they wouldn’t want to show their real face. Which is why you’ll also receive an excuse about why a video call or real-life meeting can’t happen. If the person is of a different gender to the fake account or has a completely different than expected accent, they may also say no to a voice call. 

If a catfisher is pushing for a serious relationship but won’t do something as simple as hop on Zoom to chat with you, that’s a big red flag.

Poor Language Skills

It’s not a universal sign of a scam, but you should be suspicious of someone who has poor spelling and grammar in their communication with you. Advanced catfishers can of course explain this away by creating a fake profile of someone who’s a second-language speaker.

They are Unrealistically Perfect

We don’t want to imply that you, dear reader, aren’t an absolute catch and couldn’t snag the person of your dreams. However, catfishers have a tendency to create fake profiles that are just a little too perfect. They may be beautiful, smart, qualified, skilled in every hobby and checking just about every other tick box you might have in mind for a partner. 

Ask yourself how realistic it is that such a person could exist and that they are obsessively targeting you for romance in particular.

They Have No Network of Friends

A catfisher’s fake profile can be well rounded with details about their fictional life, but it’s much harder to fake a real social network. Do they have any other friends? Are all their contacts suspiciously like fake accounts themselves? Do they interact with anyone else? Trust your gut and judge the account for how authentic it feels.

Sob Stories and Requests for Money

After establishing some measure of trust with you and making sure there’s some romantic interest, you’re likely to get a request for money. Usually there’s a “medical emergency” or the person claims they’re about to get evicted.

Whatever the specifics, the need for money is urgent and your newfound affection is used as a way to get it without too much critical thinking involved on your part.

Different catfishers have different styles of fleecing money from their victims. Some might escalate a single incident into ever larger sums as the “emergency” gets worse and worse before disappearing. Others might take small amounts of money over a long period of time, keeping up the scam for as long as possible.

Just remember that not all catfishing incidents involve money. So just because this behavior doesn’t happen doesn’t mean you’re free and clear.

Where to Find Help if You’re a Victim

If you suspect that you’re being catfished, the most important thing to do is block the account. Don’t continue to communicate with the person and report their account to the social media platform.

In some cases, you may also want to contact the police. These days many police forces have specialized units for crimes such as catfishing. They can help track down the real person and provide other forms of support. Especially if you’ve been scammed out of money.

You should also take care to consider any psychological harm that may have been done to you. Check to see if there are any cyberbullying support organizations that you can contact for support and further information. Of course, you should also reach out to trusted friends and family members for support if you need to. Never be embarrassed that a catfisher fooled you. It really can happen to anyone!

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